December 17, 2013
Infertility is a very hard pill to swallow. To experience additional pain after "we think" we may have ended our childless days feels so cruel-I know this first hand.
I have been blogger friends with Kristin since the beginning of both our journeys. We both did IVF for the first time around the same time. After all the hell IVF offers, Kristin only had 1 embryo that made it. They transferred it but it didn't implant. After talking with their doctor, they decided to move onto embryo adoption and mourned the "loss" of a biological child. Kristin was disappointed, but I knew from her story she 100% was ready to be a mom.
She adopted 3 embryos (the other ones that had been adopted had a very high implantation rate) and transferred 3. 10 days later she was left with a negative test and a broken heart. They then mourned the idea of pregnancy but nothing would stop them from being a family. They moved towards adoption in the US.
After months of fundraising, they miracously raised almost 25K for their adoption. In faith they set up and adorable nursery and waited for the call. A few months ago they got the phone call that they had been selected by birth parents and that they would have a sweet baby girl around January.
Fast forward to now, their daughter, Rylie was born with complications and too early. Kristin has just got the news that there is a high chance this little girl will be blind, unable to walk, and on a feeding tube all her life. Just when Kristin was sure the fight was over, it has only just begun. They have to know make the difficult decision if they want to move forward with the adoption-if they are prepared or if a different family would be a better fit. This story is similar to mine-you think you have something, you rejoice, you embrace it and BAM it's ripped from you. Here story isn't over though.
PLEASE send Kristin some love and prayers. Pray for healing for their daughter. Pray for wisdom in the decision. Pray for guidance. Whatever she decides, we support her. Here's a link to her blog http://babyfranz.blogspot.com/
Any words of encouragment, prayers, etc may comfort her as she is facing fear, disappoint, confusion, anger, and sadness.
11 failed IUIs, IVF #1- miscarriage, FET #1-nada, IVF #2-triplets but we lost them all at 9, 18, and 21 weeks in 2013. When all hope was lost a friend stepped forward to be our gestational carrier and carried in our twins... 2 years later we decided to try for one more baby with me carrying again...this is our story
My prayers are absolutely with this family.. I know their heart is heavy during this time and they are faced with a very hard decision. Hopefully God can rest his hands upon them and offer help! XOXO
ReplyDeleteWhat a heartbreaking story. Sending so many thoughts and prayers her way through these difficult decisions.
ReplyDeleteI've been following Kristin's blog since I started mine a few months ago. Their story is incredible and I pray they come out the other end of this trial as wise and full of God's love as possible. I love your blog. It's both heartbreaking and encouraging at the same time. My husband and I have been on a similar journey. Two years of fertility treatments, failed IVF, started the adoption process, miraculously conceived naturally, and then our daughter was stillborn last year. I know the pain of holding your still breathless child in your arms. NO ONE should ever have to experience that. We never stopped the adoption journey though and we are still waiting for our call. Hope springs eternal.
ReplyDeleteOh no. I'm so very sorry to hear that. Will head over and pray for them.
ReplyDeleteWhat a heartbreaking journey for your friend. It makes me so sad that so many of us have such heartbreaking stories. I continue to think about you , but I will also be thinking about your friend now as well. Hugs!
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